Saturday, March 5, 2011

BEST OF DTB #69 God's Girl: Marriage: Heaven / Hell?

Marriage: Heaven / Hell ?

Posted on March 5, 2011 by Jojo

It’s your choice.

“I have taken you into my arms, & I love you, & I prefer you to my life itself. For the present life is nothing, & my most ardent dream is to spend it with you in such a way that we may be assured of not being separated in the life reserved for us….I place your love above all things, & nothing would be more bitter or painful to me than to be of a different mind than you.” -St.John Chrysostom, advises young husbands to say to their wives.

Marriage was designed by God to Image Him more than anything else.
Many people look at us as a couple, & remark on our delight in each other, in the youthfulness of our Love. My husband sends a Love text message whilst I’m having coffee with friends & the look on my face gives away the romantic exchange … Frequently we are asked, “how long have you been married?” … & then comes a familiar choked shock over the answer, thinking that our romance should have grown cold by this stage, but instead is fresh & vibrant as young lovers.
Many envy what we have, as though we were somehow ‘lucky’. But I want to say … it’s not luck, but God’s grace & the strategies He gives. Available for all who are called to live Married Love. It is His Love that is living in our hearts for each other. I will attempt to tell of the decisions we had to make to keep our Love ever-new, or eternal. How we set our sails for success. It’s not just chance. It’s a decision. A firm resolve. To Love no matter what. To believe. To trust in God & persevere. To BE Happily Married. It’s an attitude, … that took us some time to develop & the perfecting of it is perpetual! :) But worth more than silver or gold.

I needed to wake up & realize “the battle is not with flesh & blood but with powers & principalities” … in the thick of battle we often get punch drunk, the dust of the battle field, mingled with blood, sweat & tears distorts vision, & the capacity to reason well. Then it dawned on me:… we were are on the SAME SIDE of the battle for Marital Bliss, we could stop aiming darts & daggers at each other & in exchange: guard each others back. Minister to my beloved rather than being on the offense.
There is an enemy of Love. An enemy of Marriage. An enemy of Holiness & Happiness. This enemy hates & attempts to destroy anything that resembles God. Faithfulness. Kindness. Steadfast Love. Family: the Communion of Love imaging the Trinity. What does this mean? How can we strategically win this battle, with the least amount of damage? For me, it meant I had to choose to Believe marriage could be Happy, Holy, just when everything around me seemed contrary. That I had to put Faith in God’s ability to bring this about & not lose Hope. I had to Trust. I had to refocus… not on the apparent issue but on God’s view. To gain eternal perspective. Where is the prize in winning an argument, by loosing charity? When I made these decisions… many a fight (that had blown up to catastrophic proportions, as they seem to with the least provocation!) stopped almost instantly. It has such Power.
Putting the other first … basics : “if you are faithful in little things I will put you over bigger things” … so broken down day-to-day living, all you do: consider the other first. ie: I pour his coffee before my own. I choose his favorite meal over what I might be feeling like. Also, I choose to pray daily for my beloved, first thing in the morning & all through the day. I help him realize his dreams… He becomes top priority.
Rather than changing him… I had to choose to over look his apparent failing & change myself. This is the most amazing spiritual tactic for victory. It changes the whole playing field & levels the pitch. Suddenly things that have been an issue for years … dissipate. What seemed so impossible… can’t be recalled !
I made the resolve to become my beloved best friend as we once were before courting, his ‘cheerleader’! His Life-Support… mouth-to-mouth included :) , I had to be his Life Coach & Life-Giving Lover all rolled into one! ! What a brilliant task set out by God Himself. An awesome fun filled privileged: realizing I was called by God to inspire greatness in him & with him as a sacred mission!
I try to honor & respect him as a man & the God-chosen head of our home. The question is how? I used to hear these words ‘honor & respect’ & get all kinds of odd interpretations! Deformed by fallen man into Domination. This is not going to inspire anyone to ‘submit’ with the right spirit! So lets look at these words with fresh understanding. One of the ways I honor my beloved, is to appear in a manner that does him proud. I try to look naturally lovely, …I love it when he grows taller as I enter the room when we’re in a public setting, & winks his approval. One of the ways I now see ‘Respect’ is the understanding that he is a man, respected as one, not a half-wit because he may hold a different opinion to mine, not a child who needs correcting, but the man who has been placed over our household in sacred leadership. I need to trust God’s choice in this! … boy, that took some time! :) …& now, I can’t believe how freeing it is to leave it in their hands (God + Ricky). To not be afraid but to rest secure that all things work to good.

keep your Love fresh

Ricky & I made a commitment to continuously work on our Selves & our Marriage, with our Relationship with God as First Place in our lives, as This Relationship inspires all others.

We went for Marriage Coaching. Thanks to “The Love Dare” - 40 days challenge to a better marriage. This was truly blessed experience, please don’t miss the opportunity. But be sure to go through the The Alexander House because they work wonders! We had Matt & Mindy Dalton as our Coaching Couple, & did sessions via Skype! They were brilliant at tweaking what we had & giving us wings to fly to new heights. Mindy said, “We don’t just want your marriage to merely survive, we want it to Thrive!” . Living in the J.P.II – B.XVI Generation (John Paul II – Benedict XVI ) we leap hearing the Call to Greatness, the call to be ALL we can be, leaving aside the grey existence of the norm & rising to new heights of freedom borne on the wings of Grace! His Power, His Enabling, His Victory … our “YES! be it done to me…” or, more simply put:… Amen. :)
There is something very dynamic about this way of Living. It brings a sparkle to every day, problems become wonderful gifts, challenging us to perfection. “Be perfect as your Father in Heaven is perfect.” We can do this not because we’re great, but because He is Great. It frees you up to shine with His glory & not feel like you should hide in false humility, you can be happy, you can have a happy home, & mystical marriage… what is impossible for man, is possible with God. If you’re a Christian, living this redeemed life, is… expected! Or we are refusing His gifts won at such an enormous price. We need to Image God, True Love, & allow this dynamic power of Love to fill the house then spill over the gate to all the world.
Challenge the culture that jokes demeaningly of Marriage & erodes the heart of what God made holy. Guard your Marriage Vocation, a holy call from the Lord, not a ‘ball & chain”. What about Guys Nights Out / Girls Nights Out, whats going on here? Singles who hook up now & then? Married but playing the Single Card? I mean, are you married or single? Which is it? There is only one correct answer. “What God has joined let no man separate.”
We delight in being One Heart, One Mind, One Spirit. Never allow this to be taken from you. There is a lot of pressure out there to socialize in opposite directions. Don’t fall for it.
I’ll have to post on this topic again … it’s going to take me… 4 Eva :)
… God bless!

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The purpose of Deeper Truth is to provide a defense for the one fully true church of Christ. It is not designed to attack or hurt others.

We will speak boldly. We will not whitewash the truth.

Yes, we do believe that there is only 1 truth and the only place on earth where it can be found whole, complete, and uncorrupted is the Roman Catholic Church. Yes, we do feel that we can prove that case.

We can prove it historically, supernaturally, logically, practically and Biblically. And we will, make no mistake about that.

We believe that science and observation and reason are sufficient proofs of the existence of God. We also believe that reason and logic alone are sufficient causes for any human being to suspect that that God would have revealed Himself to us in some fashion. Further, we believe that He has and the historical, practical and supernatural proofs are beyond overwhelming that God has revealed, and continues to reveal, His will to us exclusively through the Roman Catholic Church, which He founded when He lived among us in the historical person of Jesus Christ.

We believe that anyone who has totally given Himself to the whole and objective search for truth cannot help but be drawn towards the light of what the Apostle Paul called the Pillar and Foundation of all truth, that is the Catholic Church.
A mere 77 years after the death and Resurrection of Jesus Christ, when some of the young witnesses would still have been alive, St. Ignatius of Antioch said; “Where Christ is, there is His Catholic Church”.

Truer words were never spoken.

For those of you chomping at the bit to discuss (or dare you dream, refute) Catholic teaching, don’t worry, you will get your chance.

Here is what constitutes debate to me. You do not ignore my questions or evidences and simply move on to more questions and or accusations. You do not make accusations, purported as factual, without sufficient original evidence.

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If you characterize debate as an endless stream of unsupported accusations, you have come to the wrong place.

Here are some examples of what would constitute proof;

If you charge, as fact, that Catholics believe a particular thing, I will expect you to provide a link to an official Catholic source, citing it as a defined doctrine. Sources could include the Catechism of the Catholic Church or a document from a council. Links to anti- Catholic or non-Catholic sources that quote teachings out of context are insufficient.

I will gladly debate you on anything the Catholic Church actually has defined and teaches but I won’t waste my time arguing about what Dave Hunt or Jack Chick falsely claims that we teach.

If you charge, as purported fact, that a belief the church actually does have violates scripture or Christian teaching in some way, be prepared to not only support your arguments but to contest mine. I will debate via Scripture, history, tradition, practicality and logic. If you insist that the debate can only be on Scripture alone because you allege that Scripture is the only authority, I will insist that you provide scripture explicitly establishing that only the written word of God, as contained in a specific canon of books, can be accepted to the exclusion of all else.

Good luck.

If you charge, for example, that Catholic sexual abuse proves that the Catholic church cannot be the true church of God, I will expect you to provide empirical evidence that the rate of sexual abuse among Catholic priests is higher than ministers of other faiths or of the public at large.

The purpose of this show is to show you the truth. I will do so by basis of empirical evidence. If you truly want to see the truth, I can provide it. If you are simply unwilling to see the truth, I cannot help you.

That being said, we know that there are good people in all faiths and that many people of good will are genuinely confused about what Catholics believe and why they believe it.

I will start by giving you 30 basic precepts of what Catholics believe, as a foundation for us to build on. I will then explain exactly how this show will work.

1. We believe that by nature, science and reason alone, God has put sufficient light in every man to realize that the formation and expansion of life cannot possibly be by chance or random action. We believe that science, observation and simple human reason makes it impossible for anyone to truly doubt the existence of an intelligent designer. We believe that anyone who denies such a basic and undeniable fact, does so by force of pride or rebellion, not by force of intellect.

2. We believe that, hard-wired, by the creator, into every human being is a basic knowledge of right and wrong, good and evil. Man can choose to suppress this knowledge but he that will cause an intrinsic rebellion within him. Among this basic knowledge is the truth that murder, stealing, lying, violence, rape and homosexuality are disordered and objectively evil. Again, we believe anyone denying this knowledge isn’t doing so out of an intellectually arrived at position but out of rebellion or pain or pride. This knowledge is as basic as the knowledge that we need to breath, eat, drink, sleep, avoid pain and fight or flee danger. It is instinctive.

3. We believe that each person has in him an irresistible longing for God that battles against an unruly and unreasonable concupiscence. Concupiscence is man’s innate selfish desire. We Catholics define this concupiscence as original sin. Fully giving oneself over to the longing for God will lead to salvation. The most perfect completion of this being in the Catholic Church. A lifetime spent resisting this urge for God, in exchange for the longings of the flesh will lead to a lifetime of misery and-eventually- to an eternity of unimaginable suffering.

4. We believe this God has revealed Himself to us in very specific ways and through very specific people. These people include Prophets, Saints, Apostles and Old Testament Kings. The ways include Miracles and Signs, Sacred Scripture, public and private revelation, sacred tradition and the teachers He has appointed throughout the ages from Abraham to the current Magisterium of today’s Roman Catholic Church.

5. Because of #4, We believe anyone who claims to speak for God has an obligation to demonstrate credentials. We can do so in ways that no other church or religious entity on earth could even dare to claim.

6. We believe this God has been revealed as a singular God who exists in 3 persons, the second of which also took on humanity. We believe this one triune God and only this one triune God is worthy of worship. Anyone who tells you that Catholics worship anyone but the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit is lying to you. It’s just that simple.

7. We believe that this God gave us a moral law that will never pass away and that every single person will face the judgment of God based on the moral law.

8. We believe that Jesus Christ is the fulfillment of the Mosaic law.

9. We believe that Jesus Christ, by His life, suffering, death and Resurrection redeemed the world.

10. We believe the graces secured at Calvary are sufficient for the removal of all sin.

11. We believe that salvation is by Christ alone.

12. We believe that salvation is by grace alone.

13. We believe that man must participate in his own salvation and that no man or woman has ever been saved, or ever will be saved by faith alone. That the Bible clearly refutes the doctrine of Salvation by Faith alone is clear almost to the point of excess. Anybody who tells you that man is saved by faith alone is simply repeating a man-made lie, whether or not they may actually believe it.

14. We believe that Jesus Christ created a church that is the Pillar and Foundation of all truth, just as the Bible states. That we have an infallible Bible (and we do) is only because an infallible church gave it to us. That church-and only that Church- is fully and completely entrusted by God with the Scriptures and the Truths of Religion. Everyone else is guessing, to greater or less success, all falling short of the fullness of the truth of Catholicism. In fact…..

15. We believe that, in truth, there is only one true church. Catholic means Universal and we affirm that every single baptized Christian is a member-knowing or unknowing, willing or unwilling- of the Catholic Church and accountable, to the extent of the light of faith within them, to her teachings.

16. We affirm the infallibility and inspiration of Scripture and that all Scripture is useful for reproof, teaching and training in holiness. Nevertheless, we reject the notion of Sola Scriptura and hold the notion of practical sufficiency and the SELF interpretation of Scripture to be self-refuting, untenable nonsense.

17. We hold the teaching authority of the Church, the Sacred tradition of the fathers, and Holy Scripture to all be necessary parts of the Church.

18. We do not believe that any of the members of the Catholic Church are Impeccable, Omniscient, Omnipresent, Divine, Eternal or, in any way, shape, manner or form equal with God. This includes past, present and future members of the Catholic Church. We believe that all members of the Church had to be saved from the stain of original sin by God’s Sanctifying Grace.

19. We believe that Mary was saved by Sanctifying grace from her Mother’s womb, as was John the Baptist. We believe we can prove this scripturally.

20. We do not believe that Mary is God. Anyone who tells you that Catholics worship Mary is a liar. We do believe that She is the MOTHER of God and to deny this is to deny the Incarnation. We also believe that She fulfills the Biblical roles of the Queen Mother, The Ark of the Covenant, the Mother of Christians, the Woman clothed with the Sun and a co-mediatrix, co-redemtrix and advocate that in no manner contradicts 1 Timothy 2:5.

21. We believe that Jesus gave the Catholic clergy the power to anoint, to bind and loose, to preach and interpret Scripture and to forgive sins.

22. We believe that not one soul is saved by any other name than Jesus, even those saved who never heard His name.

23. We believe that not one soul that is saved is not saved by the merits Jesus gives through His Catholic Church, even those who don’t come to fully understand and accept it.

24. We believe that Jesus meant what He said in the 6th chapter of John’s Gospel and that each consecrated host contains the body, blood, soul and divinity of Jesus Christ.

25. We believe that only the full canon of Scripture as defined by the Catholic Church, 73 books, constitutes a complete Bible and only one carrying an Imprimatur is free from doctrinal error.

26. We reject the doctrine of the Rapture and believe that Christians will have to endure the great tribulation.

27. We reject a strictly futurist view of books like John’s Revelation.
The prophecies concerning the great harlot in Revelation 17-18, for instance, refer to the destruction of Jerusalem in 70 AD.

28. We reject the assertion that the Israel of today’s world is the Israel of Scripture and find the assertion absurd and untenable. The Church is the new Israel. The Jewish Israel of Scripture is gone, dead, kaput…no more. There is no more temple and will never be. There are no more prophets nor will ever be, no more sacrifice, no more kings, no more Jerusalem. The city is Babylon and a Spiritual Sodom. Revelation 11:8.

29. We reject the doctrine that only Catholics can be saved. God will save who He will. That someone cannot reach the fullness of truth, through their honest efforts, will not be held against him. Those who knowingly reject the truth will perish in their sin and be damned. God will judge all by their works- PERIOD.

30. We do not believe that lying in defense of one’s beliefs, as anti-catholics do, is a virtue but a violation of the commandments of God.

We trust that these subjects and more will make for lively, spirited and- we hope- civil debate.

Remember the word I spoke to you, 'No slave is greater than his master.' If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you. If they kept my word, they will also keep yours.
~ John 15:20

See that ye all follow the bishop, even as Jesus Christ does the Father, and the presbytery as ye would the apostles; and reverence the deacons, as being the institution(17) of God. Let no man do anything connected with the Church without the bishop. Let that be deemed a proper(18) Eucharist, which is[administered] either
See that ye all follow the bishop, even as Christ Jesus does the Father, and the presbytery as ye would the apostles. Do ye also reverence the deacons, as those that carry out[through their office] the appointment of God. Let no man do anything connected with the Church without the bishop. Let that be deemed a proper(18) Eucharist, which is[administered] either by the bishop, or by one to whom he has entrusted it. Wherever the bishop shall appear, there let the multitude[of the people] also be;

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by the bishop, or by one to whom he has entrusted it. Wherever the bishop shall appear, there let the multitude[of the people] also be; even as, wherever Jesus Christ is, there is the Catholic Church. It is not lawful without the bishop either to baptize or to celebrate a love-feast; but whatsoever he shall approve of, that is also pleasing to God, so that everything that is done may be secure and valid.(2) even as where Christ is, there does all the heavenly host stand by, waiting upon Him as the Chief Captain of the Lord's might, and the Governor of every intelligent nature. It is not lawful without the bishop either to baptize, or to offer, or to present sacrifice, or to celebrate a love-feast.(1) But that which seems good to him, is also well-pleasing to God, that everything ye do may be secure and valid.

~Saint Ignatius of Antioch, letter to the Smyrnaeans, chapter VIII (AD 110)

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Saturday, March 5, 2011

*BEST OF DTB #69* God's Girl: Marriage: Heaven / Hell?

Marriage: Heaven / Hell ?

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BEST OF DTB #69 God's Girl: Marriage: Heaven / Hell?